Read each of the nine statements below. Each of you should choose the one which you think best describes your relationship at the present time.

1. It's perfect. I can't imagine how our relationship could be better.
2. It's wonderful. Maybe it could get better, but I don't see how at the present time.
3. It's excellent. There are some things I wish would get better, but I'm satisfied with the way it is.
4. It's very good. There are some problems which could be better, but overall I'm pretty satisfied with the way it is.
5. It's good. We have some problems, but I'm satisfied with the way things are more than half the time.
6. It's OK. We have more problems than we should, but we still love each other. We need to do something to help improve our relationship so it doesn't get worse.
7. We may be in trouble. We have real problems, and they have gotten worse. I'm worried about the future.
8. We are in trouble. I'm seriously worried about the possibility of separation or divorce. We have to do something soon.
9. There is no hope. We have severe problems and I do not think we can solve them. We should talk about separation or divorce.

What to Do (Step 2):

Share with each other the statements you have each chosen. - If you chose a relatively positive statement, explain some of the factors in your relationship which you believe make it a good relationship. - Ifyou chose a critical statement, explain some ofthefactors which you believe are causing problems. Decide on a scale of I to 10 how serious the problem(s) are. Discuss possible solutions. Decide ifyou need help solving the problem(s).

This discussion will help you clarify the present state of your relationship, and may help you talk about problems if they exist.